Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Proven Techniques to Make Your Wife Enjoy Sex


Sex is an important part of any marriage. This is an act of love where two people get closer physically and emotionally. If your sex life is not enjoyable, conflicts may arise within the marriage. To be able to enjoy sex you must both achieve orgasm at the same time. Most women find it hard to get an orgasm during sexual intercourse and sometimes fake it because she does not want to hurt her husband. But it is unfair for women not to achieve the same sexual satisfaction that you are getting. As a husband, of course you want to make your wife enjoy sex and achieve orgasms.
Achieving sexual satisfaction will add spice into your marriage and will make the relationship stronger. To make your wife enjoy sex, of course you need the necessary skills. If you feel your wife is not achieving orgasm during sexual intercourse, do not get frustrated because lovemaking is an art and giving pleasure to a woman in bed can be learned.
Here are some tips to make your wife enjoy sex:
Find out what she prefers during sexual intercourse. Sometimes women cannot enjoy sex because there are things that are uncomfortable for her. For instance, there are women who do not want to have sex when the light is on. There are sex positions that she is not comfortable with but she is afraid to tell you. Bottom line is find out what makes her comfortable to forget all her inhibitions and just give in to have an intense lovemaking with you. If she is comfortable, you can make your wife enjoy sex with you.
Make her feel sexy and gorgeous. Sometimes women are hesitant to give their all during sexual intercourse because they are not motivated emotionally. Women have insecurities about their body and their looks. Make her feel loved, beautiful and let her know that she is the sexiest woman for you. You will definitely make your wife enjoy sex if she feels loved and adored.
Oral sex and foreplay. Women need more foreplay to be able to enjoy the sexual act with you. Men easily get aroused, but with women it is different. That is why it is important that you know how to touch her on the right places and give longer oral sex for her to get aroused and be ready for you. To make your wife enjoy sex, do not rush her and let her enjoy your caress and touch.
Give her multiple orgasms. Giving women an orgasm is a big challenge for some men because women find it hard to get an orgasm during sexual intercourse. Giving her multiple orgasms will make your wife enjoy sex and keep asking you for more.
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Wednesday, July 16, 2008


Female violence in the family is a major source of teen female violence.


The future well-being of a society is directly linked to its ability to care for and educate its young. Families that cannot successfully care for their young, nurture the seeds of future violence and criminality. Until we learn this, we will continue to build more prisons at a much higher cost than treatment or prevention. Until we fully recognize and provide adequate services for the important parental task of caring for its young, we will not stop the cycle of violence.
Female violence and aggression is increasing. Steffensmeier and Haynie (2000) found that a history of economic disadvantage and social disorganization was associated with adult female homicide. Campbell (1993) suggests that women express violence in response to stress and frustration. Katherine Ramsland has proposed several reasons for aggression by women (Court TV Crime Library, 2005). Some work in partnership with boyfriends or husbands who beat them if they do not cooperate, some are impulsively violent, and some are methodically cruel. Elizabeth Epstein (2005) found that among the relationships of 109 alcoholic women, 61% reported some violence. In 23% of the couples, the woman was more violent and in 11% of the couples, the man was more violent. Feibert (1997) in an annotated bibliography points out that many studies have found that women are equally or more violent in their interpersonal relationships than men. Dobash et al., (1992) point out that female and male rates of spousal murder in the US are very similar, while the perpetrators of spousal abuse are predominantly male.
My study of female violence indicated that adult females with histories of aggression had moderate to severe behavior problems that began before the age of 13, assault of an authority figure, impulsivity, delinquency, running away from home, substance abuse, belief in the legitimacy of aggression as a means to an end, very poor or very good (superficial) social skills (glib), attachment problems, few pro-social peers, behavior problems at school, home or work, lack of success in school, job, or as a home maker, family violence and low warmth in the family of origin, lack of appropriate boundaries in family of origin or present family, and parent(s) with untreated or ineffectively treated psychiatric or substance abuse problems.
In addition to those traits, women with severe assaults that caused harm or death to another had escaped from a facility, run away from home, and bullying behavior. A third of those with chronic assaults lacked remorse, and had positive attitudes toward antisocial behavior, emotional displays that were flat or out of control, deviant peers, and excessive absenteeism from school or work in addition to the general characteristics cited above. Additionally it appears that the number and the severity of traumas experienced by a woman are associated with the number and severity of behavior problems a woman commits as a youth.
Females are most likely to kill a spouse (19% of victims of female homicide), a friend/acquaintance (17%), or a boyfriend or girlfriend (10%) and least likely to kill an employee/er (.1%) or a sibling (1%) (BJS). Twelve percent of US homicide offenders (BJS) and 12% of identified serial killers are female (Newton, 2000). The motive for 41% of female serial killers is money. Substance abuse is more likely to be involved when an abused woman murders her abusive male partner.
An example of female violence is Aileen Wuornos. She was born in Michigan in 1956. Aileen's childhood was full of abandonment and despair, and the killings and molestations taking place around her as a youngster foreshadowed a life in prostitution and murder that would later unfold. Aileen was never able to form an attachment to a peer group nor have the capacity to formulate empathy for others. She ended up confessing to six murders, claiming and then refuting she committed them in self-defense.
Before Aileen even met her biological father, he served time in prison for molesting a child and later hung himself in his cell. Her mother left Aileen and her brother, Keith, with the children's maternal grandparents when Aileen was only 4 years old. Having given birth to her children as a teenager, Aileen's mother lamented that they were "crying, unhappy babies." At age 6 Aileen suffered facial burns while setting fires with lighter fluid.
Aileen later revealed that she had sex with her brother at a young age (a claim that is not verified). She was often truant from school and was pregnant at age 14. In this same year, her grandmother went into violent convulsions and died-there was suspicion that Aileen's grandfather was to blame.
Aileen soon entered a bleak existence of hitchhiking and prostitution, picking up along the way several charges of drunk and disorderly behavior and assault (Court TV's Crime Library, 2005). She was later charged, convicted, and executed for the murder of six men with whom she had sex.
The research literature clearly shows that at least one source of female violence is the exposure to neglect, abuse and domestic violence as a child. Early identification and intervention into violent homes is essential to stop the cycle of family violence. This is not to excuse the behavior, but to prevent it in the future. Additionally, most mothers who kill their children are psychotic, under stress, isolated, have long histories of mental illness, and have been abused or exposed to domestic violence as children. We can no longer ignore these precursors. As a society, we must intervene early with therapy and family supports for all families exposed to domestic violence.
Dr. Kathryn Seifert is a psychotherapist with over 30 years experience in mental health, addictions, and criminal justice work. Dr. Seifert has authored the CARE and numerous articles. She speaks nationally on mental health related topics and youth violence. She is an expert witness in the areas of youth and adult violence and sexual offending. Her latest book is coming soon: How Children Become Violent

Confident or Insecure?


Confidence can keep you out of dangerous situations and improves your physical health as well. It is obvious how confidence attracts confident people, friends, significant others and great coworkers, isn't it?
If you are a person who attracts people who are insecure, remember that your own confidence has to be in place to attract a different kind of person. You can only help an insecure person so much because self-image, self-esteem and self-confidence are all inside jobs. If you get dragged down, your self-confidence will suffer.
The concept of personal safety being quite dependent on confidence may be new to you but I'm sure you'll agree it makes sense. Remember that confident men, colleagues and friends are attracted and attackers are repelled by a confident woman.
Bonus Safety Tip: Holding your head up is the most important aspect of confident body language.

"What Would You Do?" Can Repel Attackers and May Save Your Life!


We hear about crime and often do nothing to prevent it from happening to us. A good habit to get into is thinking about what you would do if the same situation occurred in your life. Although a bit scary, thinking it through has several benefits.
You've acknowledged your vulnerability therefore, you don't look oblivious like most people do (attackers love oblivious people)
You have a plan of action which gives you confidence (attackers are repelled by confident people because they themselves are weak).
You are more aware of your surroundings and therefore may avoid situations of vulnerability (attackers hate aware people).
When you have thought things through, you walk more confidently and body language is the most common way attackers select victims.
So there you go. Just by simply thinking through a situation with you at the center, you benefit by being safer immediately attracting people who are confident themselves and repelling weak ones who will drag you down and or victimize you. Just being dragged down is a form of attack because it weakens you mentally and emotionally, which in turn, weakens you physically.
Gross Seekers and Arrogance
Although gross curiosity gives birth to rubber-neckers at crash and crime scenes, the magnitude of the situation seems to bounce off of those same people who very likely have their heads in the sand, ignoring their own vulnerability. The "head buried in the sand" syndrome causes those buried to look insecure in a dangerous situation or arrogant if they try to fake confidence. Arrogance is insecurity personified and looks opposite of confident.
As a paramedic in my early 20's, I still get asked, "What is the worst thing you ever saw?" Obviously, the question begs for therapy rather than an answer but the people who ask it are usually careless in their lives and know little about avoiding dangerous situations. Although unfortunate for them (and hopefully not tragic) this makes it easy for us to set ourselves apart from the general public by looking and being confident. Just the knowledge of what you would do in a certain situation makes your body language stronger without you even knowing it. Well, now you know it!
Remember:
Attackers may be male or female of any age
Attacks may be verbal, mental, emotional or physical
Attackers have a plan of attack - do you have a plan of escape?

Monday, July 7, 2008

How Safe Is Sex During Pregnancy?


When a woman becomes pregnant, one of the questions uppermost in the minds of the couple is whether they will be able to enjoy any sexual intercourse in the following months. Some couples dread pregnancies as it could put a dampener on their sexual life. But the good news is that pregnancy may not necessarily intervene in your sexual life at all. There are several misconceptions about having sexual intercourse during pregnancy and that is why couples develop wrong notions. However, most of these notions are quite unjustified.Â
The first thing one must understand is how pregnancy affects the body of the woman. Pregnancy occurs when the male sperm fertilizes the egg cell of the female. This fertilized egg is called as the embryo, which gets implanted in the uterus. Pregnancy brings about a host of changes in the woman, the first of them being the pause in the menstrual cycles. The embryo develops into the fetus. In order to protect the fetus, the amniotic cavity develops around it. The amniotic cavity is a fluid filled cavity meant for supplying the fetus with all the nutrients it requires for its development. At the same time, in order to prevent further fertilizations, the uterus opening, i.e. the cervix, is blocked off by a layer of mucus.
Now we know the changes that take place in the uterus when pregnancy occurs. Nature provides the growing fetus with all the protections necessary. The mucus layer cuts off the growing embryo from the rest of the outside world.
Contrary to popular belief, there is no harm in having sex when a woman is pregnant, and this could continue till late in the pregnancy. First and foremost, there is no way the penis or the seminal and vaginal fluids can come in contact with the embryo and cause any infections. This is because of the mucus layer that blocks off the cervix. Also for this very same reason, there can be no dislodging of the embryo inside the uterus in any manner.
However, care must be taken with the sexual positions that are adopted. The missionary position must be avoided, since in this position there is a tendency to lay more pressure on the uterus. The missionary position is the one in which the male lies on top and both partners are belly-to-belly in contact. Also the woman-on-top position must be avoided. Any other position in which pressure is not exerted on the woman’s uterus is acceptable.
It is necessary to speak to the doctor about sexual intercourse when the woman is pregnant. This is because though there are no technical problems with sexual intercourse during pregnancy, there can be some biological problems linked with the past of the woman. Like if the woman has had a premature birth in the past, then the doctor would advise the couple to refrain from penetrative sexual intercourse in the last three months of pregnancy. Women with miscarriages previously must not indulge in penetrative sexual intercourse during the first three months. And women who have a short cervix (this can be ascertained with a sonography test) must abstain from sexual intercourse throughout the pregnancy.
Yet sexual intercourse during pregnancy takes on a new meaning as the couple soon realizes. Since the woman’s body undergoes numerous changes - including the increase in the size of the breasts and the hips - the male partner may become more aroused. Hormonal changes may also induce the woman to become more libidinous during pregnancy. At the same time, on an emotional level, the partners develop greater love for each other in anticipation of their shared joy.
But the contrary of this case can also be seen. During pregnancy, some women might become too preoccupied with their thoughts to become interested in sexual intercourse. They may be intrigued by the changes in their bodies, and even scared of them to an extent. If such a situation arises, then it becomes the man’s responsibility to put the woman at ease.
Some couples could find sex during pregnancy too difficult to manage, due to the increase in the size of the couple. This could make the vagina difficult to access considering some sexual positions. The man may be reluctant to lie on top because of fear of harming the fetus, and the woman may not lie on top for fear of putting more weight on the man. Both of these situations could lead to difficulty in managing sexual intercourse.
Finally, it must be remembered that there are alternatives to sexual intercourse if things become too difficult. Mutual masturbation is one of the options. The couple can stimulate each other’s genitals by hands and lead them to orgasms. This could help relieve the sexual frustration. Oral sex can be performed without any problems. Though not advisable due to hygienic reasons, anal sex is also an option. But the most important thing is, the couple should develop stronger emotional bonds of love for each other. During pregnancy, it is best to make love with the mind than with the genitals.

I have no desire for sex, this is normal?


All pregnant women are no different. While some women face an increase in their sexual behavior, while others may decline. Many women with morning sickness have no desire for sex at all. This is a good thing, but actually quite normal. Who will love, if they feel sick? After entering his 2 Quarter, most of the time the morning of the disease are beginning to disappear. Once that happens, you feel better, and their sexual behavior of many similarities. If it turns out that not only the desire for sex for all, there are other possibilities, and their needs and requirements of their partners in private life, such as kiss and hold each other.
Are there any positions that are more comfortable during my months of pregnancy?
Once your stomach starts to grow, this may be unpleasant to have sex in the "man at the top." "Spoons" position has been very popular among pregnant women! In this position, each of the partner countries for their contribution, with men in the back. Thus, your stomach is not in the way and his body is still flat.
Is it true that sex can cause labor?
According to doctors, these chemicals in semen, it will soften the cervix, and assistance in the process. Nevertheless, sex does not encourage birth. Sperm could help the process of working after it started, but not really the reason to get started. When you click Shrinking, contact your doctor.
If you have any other questions that have not been addressed, talk with your physician specialists! He or she must be more than ready answers to your questions!

As a pregnant woman, is it possible that sex drives as your mood?


Up and down! Some argue that women have no sexual desire at all during pregnancy and others say their sexual attraction is better during pregnancy. With changes in the body goes so quickly, this desire goes up and down and can be just as fast!
Here are some frequently asked questions often asked of pregnant women with helpful answers!
How secure that sex in any trimester of pregnancy?
If there is no pain during sexual intercourse, and not a high risk pregnancy, then sex is absolutely safe! If you experience pain, or history of miscarriage or complications, contact your doctor.