Reduce Your Relationship Stress

Relationship stress can be caused by any number of issues; money, children, careers, in-laws, neighbors or the weather. Yes, the weather. However, in reality none of these things really cause relationship stress. What causes stress due to these issues in not the topic of money but your attitudes about money or your willingness to discuss it in a non-judgmental or neutral way and not letting your ego take over. So, it isn't really money or the lack of it that's the culprit but the way you discuss it. If your comments are riddled with blame, invalidation, criticism - whatever - then I guarantee that you will have relationship money challenges.
Children don't cause relationship stress, your reaction to or your expectations about how children should behave, how they should feel, what they should or shouldn't do etc is what causes you stress. Then if you don't have a method for releasing or handling these stressors I guarantee you'll bring this stress into every discussion with your partner about how the children are driving you nuts.
How about your career or job. Jobs are not stressful. They are jobs. What makes them stressful is how we handle the requirements of them. Whether we flow with these routine challenges, tasks or problems or we fight them every step of the way. Whether we get defensive and intolerant of customer's, fellow employee's or boss's attitudes, expectations or relationship style or we accept them as the way it is.
It has been said that the holidays are the most stressful time of the year for many people. Well let me tell you, it's not the holidays that cause your stress if you have it, it's your expectations that; there shouldn't be traffic, there shouldn't be lines in the stores, every gift you want should be on sale and available now, need I go on?
Life doesn't cause stress. The holidays don't cause stress. Relationships don't cause stress. Money or the lack of it doesn't cause stress. What causes stress are our attitudes about what is happening. What causes the negative impact of stress in your life is not the stressors, the stuff that's happening, but your interpretation of what is happening and how it should be better, different or not happening at all. Want to reduce your stress and its negative impact on your relationships, health, life and future?
Relax. It's life. It isn't perfect, never has been and never will be.