Life experience is key

If a girl is between 18 and 22, she’s not completely mature. By the time she’s 23, she has to have Integrity, she has to be a Giver, and she’s got to be Flexible to be ready for a long-term relationship. And she’s got to have something called Life Experience. To you Psych majors, an 18- to 22-year-old girl doesn’t have sufficient Life Experience to make her mature enough for a long-term relationship.Regarding the age limits on women, my rules don’t really contradict each other, and I’ll explain why. Basically, you have to date a girl for two years after she’s 22. In other words, you want to start going with her when she’s 23 or 24. If you get some years in with her before that age, it can be even better -- provided she’s a keeper.eyIf a girl is between 18 and 22, she’s not completely mature. By the time she’s 23, she has to have Integrity, she has to be a Giver, and she’s got to be Flexible to be ready for a long-term relationship. And she’s got to have something called Life Experience. To you Psych majors, an 18- to 22-year-old girl doesn’t have sufficient Life Experience to make her mature enough for a long-term relationship.Regarding the age limits on women, my rules don’t really contradict each other, and I’ll explain why. Basically, you have to date a girl for two years after she’s 22. In other words, you want to start going with her when she’s 23 or 24. If you get some years in with her before that age, it can be even better -- provided she’s a keeper.

RED OR GREEN LIGHT ON ORAL HOT LOVE ?

Oral sex on herThis may seem odd, but many women still aren’t very familiar with men who love to go down on them. This can be for a variety of reasons, but having her intimate parts gazed at, smelled at close range and tasted can make her very uncomfortable. Red light: If she resists you going down on her by closing her legs, you should reconsider. She may have a very good reason for not wanting you to go there -- smells, tastes and so on -- and it might just be in your best interest! However, she may not be familiar with the sensual delights of cunnilingus, so she might need you to give her a warm, wet introduction. Normally, you will feel her stiffen up if she is uncomfortable, and she may jump to the next activity hoping you won’t try again. If you sense her discomfort, this aspect of your sex life may require discussion at a later stage, when you are not in an intimate situation. Green light: If you go down and she lets you, you have your green light. Eat your heart out, baby!

How to get onto her “great” list

Be really good at one thingThis can be kissing, a sensual massage or cunnilingus -- but whatever it is, make sure that you're darn good at it and that she enjoys it. This presents her with the illusion that you have already been educated by some other woman. If you are really good at even just one thing, she will easily accept that you are not perfect at everything and thoroughly enjoy the fruits of schooling you, however limited you may be.
Be confident in your touchAn uncertain touch shows her that you don’t know what feels good, and this clearly displays your inexperience. This is why women love those charming playboys; they have done it all so many times that they get it right the first time. She is hoping that you have touched enough women -- or at least one woman enough times -- that you know what feels good and what doesn’t. Granted, not every man has been blessed with even one decent ex-girlfriend, but don’t let this hold you back: If in doubt, enjoy yourself. Another reason women choose playboys is because they love to put their hands all over a woman’s body -- this makes women feel sexy. Touch her because you love to do so, and she will be thrilled that you are enjoying it so much.
Learn to relaxYes, it’s hard, I know, but try. She will be able to feel it if you are tense and trying too hard to please her. Just relax and feel free to let her take over anytime she likes. You will learn a lot. If you are not relaxed, you will end up committing a line of faux pas, such as kissing her like you are a bull terrier crossed with a leech or hurting her by being too rough or careless. Being relaxed allows you to ooze confidence, so take a deep breath, make a conscious effort to relax your face, shoulders, neck and back, breathe out, and be fluid.

ENJOY 2009 IN SEXY WAYS......

Communicate better and more regularly with your partner
This resolution seems basic, but, in fact, it could be the most important ingredient to a good sex life. When is the last time you discussed sex with your partner?

Break one of your own taboos
This resolution regards any rules or taboos you and/or your lover have imposed on yourselves regarding sex. Be it sex in public, sex at the in-laws/parents, anal sex, oral sex or any other thing that is a ”rule” which is just “there,” make 2009 the year to break it.

Overcome your sexual fears
If there is anything you or your mate wants to try that makes either of you break out in a cold sweat, feel the fear and try it anyway. There is nothing as liberating as being terrified of something and overcoming it.

2009 Bedroom Resolutions

Learn some of the Kama Sutra with your partner
The Kama Sutra may be the oldest love, sex and spiritual guide in existence. The sex chapter has often been plucked out and circulated on the internet, in books and on DVD's, and as a result most people presume it's the entire text -- it is not. The book is about the communication, the settings and the behavior involved in sex and relationships, as well as techniques and other useful advice on poses, kissing and touching. Western and modern, it is not. Generally helpful and appropriate to all adult human beings, it isLearn some of the Kama Sutra with your partner