Rescue is a pretty serious word. Sometimes when a relationship gets bad enough, it is the only word that applies. If your relationship is to the point of needing rescue, you will need to act quickly and practically to regain what was lost, whether it be love, trust or respect. Going into 'Rescue Relationship Mode' is not as simple as it may sound. Follow these guidelines to stay on track and keep your eyes on the prize: that once healthy, thriving relationship your partner and you once shared.
To start this rescue relationship mission, you should first check yourself before you wreck yourself. Make sure that this problem in your relationship isn't just some sort of lull brought on by unrealistic expectations. Many couples feel their relationship is falling apart after their honeymoon phase is over. Some of the initial rush and thrill has worn off, and the romance is slowly dying a quiet yet tragic death.
Relationships naturally slow into a deeper, more consistent love. During this transition, affected parties may feel that they fire is dying, the spark is gone, but in truth, nothing is wrong. Make sure before you panic about the state of things that the two of you are not in some sort of unfortunate, but completely normal, rut.
Just because it is normal does not mean there's nothing you can do to spice up a relationship that is settling into maturity. Going on dates, trying new things, and complimenting each other regularly are ways to keep some of the honeymoon phase romance in a relationship that has made it past that phase.
If you have ruled out manageable problems and are indeed in 'Rescue Relationship Mode,' the first step is not to point out all of the negatives. To the contrary, your partner and you should discuss all that is good and worth working for in your relationship so that you start out your rescue mission with a positive attitude knowing exactly what it is you are fighting for.
Mistakes happen, lies don't have to. Be reasonable about each other's short comings and keep an open honest line of communication. Make sure all of your issues get discussed. If you are in it to win it and truly want to rescue your relationship, no problems should pass without discussion for any reason. Lying by omission is still lying, and a relationship built on lies cannot be salvaged.
Don't expect your partner to be perfect. Don't even expect him or her to try to be perfect. Expect only that your partner is and will continue to try to be the best person he or she can be. Although it is important to bring all of your issues to the table, sometimes it is best to take a break, walk away, regroup your thoughts and come back to a topic again later. Sometimes you may gain a new perspective, or think of a solution when the dust settles in your brain. At the very least, it will keep your partner and you from fighting as much. Fights are counterproductive to Operation: Rescue Relationship.
Last but not least, don't forget what you're fighting for. Enjoy each other; take comfort in being comrades in your mission to rescue your relationship. Remind yourself why you are willing to fight to keep this person as a part of your life. Help him or her remember why he or she wants you in theirs.If you and your partner work together, you can make Operation: Rescue Relationship a success.
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